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Anger
Below are a few books on anger that may be helpful as a supplement to counseling / counselling. These books will give you information on and understanding of some of the problems with, and effects of anger in relationships and in communication when we release it inappropriately. Anger is healthy to a certain point as a protective mechanism and as the sometimes necessary oomph (assertiveness) in setting healthy relationship boundaries. This can easily go too far though in the types of anger that manifest in an expression of uncontrolled tempers, explosive controlling outbursts, bursts of aggression, raging violent attacks or domestic violence. Unfortunately anger can and does sometimes escalate physically especially when control issues and denial are involved. Even though stress and / or fear can sometimes sap our emotional reserves so that we feel left with less energy to hold our anger in check, we are still responsible for our actions and responses. Expressing and releasing rage and violence in marriage or in any relationship simply will not work. It will undermine intimacy and trust. Anger management techniques & skills, and strategies for managing anger can be learned, although focusing on these alone will not deal with the whole picture. Since feelings of hurt (primary feelings) almost always underlie feelings of anger (secondary feeling) it is important to learn how to release these feelings of hurt by expressing them in relationships. This will begin to defuse the anger over time and bring relief. These feelings of hurt are often unconscious and are usually anchored in childhood experiences, so these repeating emotional themes from the past need to be faced and worked through. This is especially relevant for men, as we have for the most part been shamed out of expressing feelings of hurt and weakness through our culture's socialization process of us as boys and teens. We have some real catch-up to do here in learning how to express our hurts and feelings. This obviously involves some hard work but this is very do-able. It involves facing and dealing with the hidden unresolved hurt, pain, and loss that underlies our anger.
We offer professional counseling / counselling therapy services for individuals, marriages and families interested in overcoming anger problems. Our goal is to help you work out healing through professional therapeutic advice and guidance.
Books 2. The Anger Workbook for Parents - Frank Minirth & Les Carter 3. The Dance of Anger - Harriet Goldhor Lerner (secular)
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